When you say "I DO"

Dealing with Bullying in Marriage“Having a healthy marriage is more than finding the right person; it’s becoming the right person” Lolly Pisoni Marriage begins with the words “I DO!” Some people, however, are quick to profess these two words without considering for one moment what they truly imply. These people end up getting themselves into situations and relationships they weren’t even prepared for. We don’t realise that at that precise moment we say those words we are not just accepting the person standing in front of us, but who they will become and also who they have been. So, when we say “I DO!” we are saying I accept you for who you were, for who you are and for who you will become. This marks the beginning of a lifelong journey called marriage. Marriage is a union between two willing and consenting individuals. It is built on and sustained by two implicit dedications, namely love and acceptance. We promise to love our partners unconditionally and to accept and respect them for who they are. Our marriage vows are our commitment to love, accept, respect and cherish each other throughout the course of our marriage. This is always much easier said than done. This is the promise we make and try to fulfil for the rest of our lives. We wait for what seems like a lifetime to meet our soul mate, get married and create the life we have always imagined. The entire time we are focused on finding the right one, and we do very little to prepare ourselves for the course yet ahead. We never really take the time to consider whether we ourselves are worthy and right for that “right one.” This is often the case when people look for spouses or partners. The focus is always on the other person. It is easy to fall in love; the difficult part is staying in love and living it out throughout all the seasons of your life. Many people fail to grow in love. It is what I call “rising in love”, so we fall in love but fail to “rise in love.” This leads to people falling “out of love” and relationships being abandoned.